don’t imagine your otp slow dancing in their socks while the taller of the two hums a tune (terribly) for them to dance to and the shorter has their face pressed into the taller one’s shoulder. don’t imagine it.
Neal gave up his life TWICE for Emma, for Henry, for the town and all the people in it. He did this selflessly, gaining nothing for himself, all for the happiness and safety of his loved ones and strangers.
Hook gave up his ship, an inanimate object, so that he could “win” Emma’s heart.